Listen

When I ask you to listen to me,—And you start giving me advice,—You have not done what I asked.

 When I ask that you listen to me,—And you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way,—You are trampling on my feelings.

When I ask you to listen to me,—And you feel you have to do something to solve my problems,—You have failed me,—strange as that may seem

Listen:  all I ask is that you listen,—Not talk, or do—just hear me.—When you do something for me—That I need to do for myself,—You contribute to my fear and feelings of inadequacy.

But when you accept as a simple fact—That I do feel what I feel—no matter how irrational,—Then I can quit trying to convince you—And go about the business—Of understanding what’s behind my feelings.

So,—please listen and just hear me—And,—if you want to talk,—Wait a minute for your turn–and I’ll listen to you.

taken from: Communication, Purple mod.

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